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That depends on your child's comfort level. It's easy to be brave during the daytime, but 3- and 4-year-olds tend to regress a bit around bedtime, and that's when a child wants the security of home. That said, there are some exceptions, even at this young age. Many preschoolers may have already spent overnights at family members' homes or at Grandma and Grandpa's house when you were away, so they may be ready for a sleepover and will think it's a treat.
Still, you'll want to assess whether your preschooler is really ready for a sleepover. If she has an elaborate bedtime routine, typically needs your comfort during the night, clings or cries when you leave her, you may want to postpone a sleepover — for everyone's sake. And if your preschooler still wets the bed, talk with her and with the host's parents beforehand so that a bed-wetting incident won't be traumatic or embarrassing for anyone (you might also pack a pair of training pants in her overnight bag for her to wear to bed).
After thinking through all of these issues, if your child's really not ready to spend a night away from home, try a practice run instead. Send your pj-clad, sleeping-bag-toting preschooler to a relative's home for a few hours of nighttime fun, chatting, and snacking. By 9 p.m., pick her up; then everyone can get some sleep.
On the other hand, if your child seems ready for a night away, and she's eager to try it, then go for it. You'll want to do your homework, of course: It's always a good idea to meet with the host's parents ahead of time (or talk with them on the phone) to make sure your child will feel safe and comfortable at her pal's house. Talking with the parents first also allows you to address any of your concerns, for instance, making sure there aren't any guns in the house and determining that the parents will use good judgment in offering age-appropriate activities to the kids, such as movies that aren't too terrifying.
Be sure your child's first sleepover is at the home of a familiar friend, whose parents she knows, so she'll feel more comfortable. Just make sure she understands that she can come home if she changes her mind — all she has to do is call. (You'll want to stay at home or keep your cell-phone handy so she can reach you.) Answer any of your child's questions beforehand, such as where she'll sleep, and then help her get ready for the big occasion (don't forget to pack her stuffed animal, baby doll, or blanket for extra security). When you drop her off, explain that you'll pick her up after breakfast. Call her around bedtime, if you think she might find that comforting. If that's likely to trigger tears or make her anxious, let her decide whether or not she wants to talk with you before she goes to sleep. Chances are, she'll be having so much fun with her friend that she'll scamper happily off to bed...but not necessarily off to sleep!