We are searching data for your request:
Upon completion, a link will appear to access the found materials.
When your child has a tantrum, it doesn't mean you're a bad parent, only that you're the parent of a toddler. The best thing you can do is stay calm. Unlike your kicking, screaming child, you have the ability to control your emotions and restore the peace.
You can't bring your toddler to his senses by raising your voice or making threats. Getting mad will only escalate his emotions. And if you punish him for having a tantrum, he may start to keep his anger and frustration inside, which is unhealthy.
Tantrums often happen because young children have strong feelings they don't know how to handle. A tantrum can be scary for a child because he's out of control.
Keep in mind that children are more likely to lose their tempers when they're hungry or tired. So if you're about to embark on a marathon shopping trip, for example, try to make sure your child is fed and rested.
It may help to establish the ground rules before you reach the store, too. If your child is likely to lobby for a new toy, you can explain ahead of time that you're only there to buy groceries.
Frustration is also a big tantrum producer. If you know your child is going to insist on visiting the pet store when you go to the mall, make sure you have time to do it or think twice about the trip. Thinking through his probable reactions, the consequences, and the alternatives isn't really "giving in" to him; it's being a wise parent.
It's also important to stand your ground. For example, if your child is screaming because you passed the candy aisle without stopping, don't make a U-turn just to calm him down.
Instead, tell him firmly that he has to stop throwing a fit. If he keeps it up, it's time to use your most potent weapon: the exit.
Even if you're in the middle of a big shopping trip, you can always whisk your child out of the store. If your child likes to shop, there's a good chance he'll calm down once he understands the consequences.
If your child continues throwing a fit, take him home (or at least outside the store). The shopping can probably wait.
Toddlers have tantrums, and some of them are bound to happen in public. Regardless of any looks you get, your child doesn't understand your embarrassment, so remember that public tantrums aren't meant to humiliate you.
Once the tantrum subsides, give your toddler hugs and reassurance. As he grows older, he'll learn better ways to express himself.