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It's not surprising that your parents want to start toilet training your child earlier than you'd expected to; the parenting philosophies of a generation ago were quite different from those in vogue today and toilet training was emphasized at a much younger age. Nowadays most experts believe that toilet training, like many developmental achievements, should be "child centered," which means that the parents take their cue from the child rather than vice versa. What this means in practical terms is that the parents watch for the child to show that he's interested and enthusiastic before they introduce toilet training.
That said, if your toddler seems at least close to ready, it might be worthwhile to let him go ahead and try. Since your toddler probably won't have the same need to assert his independence or act negatively toward his grandparents as he does with you, they may find him more cooperative in using the potty. And as long as you feel comfortable with the general approach your child's grandparents are planning to take, it's reasonable to let them start potty training even if you'd planned to wait a little longer. However, consistency is important for toddlers, so it's important to get everyone on the same page before you begin. For suggestions on how to proceed, see successful toilet training for boys and successful toilet training for girls.
Also make sure that you let your child's grandparents know to avoid making too big a deal out of his efforts to use the potty or he may feel he's let them down when he has an accident, something that's almost inevitable. And of course, when he does have accidents, let them know how important it is not to scold or punish him or he may begin to resist training. Most importantly, don't let your child be caught in the middle of any disagreement about toilet training between you and your parents or in-laws; handle any tense discussions well out of his earshot.